Day #7: 30 Day Writing Callenge

List 10 Songs You Are Loving Right Now:

If it isn't clear to you already - there are a lot of demons I am facing in my life right now. Music is my way of relating, expressing and understanding myself and my troubles. I won't lie - I am depressed. Almost to the extent where I feel like turning to someone for help, but I won't do that. I have fought depression alone before and I will again. I will be OK again. 

People often say they are depressed. I truly don't think the majority of people who say that know what they mean. They don't. 

Depression is a scary, dark place. You are alone - but you don't want company. You see food, but you can't it even when your stomach grumbles. You smile, but it hurts from how fake it. It's like your face is shattering more-so than you're spreading happiness. It doesn't feel right. 

You see people and try to mask your emotions - but it is impossible. People can feel your energy. You can see them being brought down by the weight of you. You feel tiny, even if you are proportionally a big person. You feel pathetic and selfish for spending so much of your time wallowing in self-pity, but you can't help it. 

You want to a better person, you try... but you fail. You are worthless and useless to yourself. You feel feel bad when your loved ones ask how you are because you cannot tell them the truth anymore. Maybe at first it was fine to share your problems and sadness with them... but after weeks or months of the same shit... you feel like they will become bored you. So you lie. You tell them you are fine. But you're not. .... and you don't think you will ever be fine again. Not really. 

You are broken. 

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Lyrics mean everything to me. A song needs a melody to be complete - but I am not connected to many songs at all without being able to relate to the lyrics.

There is one song that happens to be without lyrics that I could listen to on repeat for hours and hours though.

This one:

Ludovico Einaudi - Nuvole Bianche

I have read books while listening to that song, I have wept while listening to that song, I felt love and hate and pain and anguish and fear all while listening to this song. It portrays all emotions to me. 

It is a phenomenal piece of music, one that doesn't need lyrics to be understood.

Then we have: 

Missy Higgins - Where I Stood

There is so much in the lyrics to this song that sums up how I feel right now. From the very first verse - I was connected and relating whole-heartedly. 

"I don't know what I've done, or if I like what I've begun..."

I don't know what I've done with my life recently. I don't know if the choices I made were the right ones. I don't know if I've wasted my time or damaged myself beyond repair. I don't know if I like what has happened and where I have ended up. I don't. There is so much uncertainty in my world and coursing through my soul right now.

"Something told me to run and honey you know me, it's all or none."

I felt the irresistible urge to run from my life in South Africa.... and I did. In the space of hours I changed my entire life - gave up so much and fled. I created this new life for myself...

"Cuz I don't know who I am, who I am without you. All I know is that I should. And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you. All I know is that I should."

I don't know who I am without my partner. I don't. I've always been a relationship person, always. I have always dedicated myself fully and tried everything and anything to make it work. I give up so much and I have sacrificed so much of my life and independence for relationships. It has lead to so much regret - and I don't want regret in my life.

I can't handle the thought of someone else with the person I love - although it is too late for that really, isn't it? He had his hands and his mind all over so many other women while with me. While living with me. 

"Cuz she will love you more than I could, she who dares to stand where I stood."

Someone else would love you more. They would make you happy. I can't any longer. How can you love and forgive and forget so much? Something so bad? It has broken me. You even tell me you've learned your lesson and you'd never cheat on a woman again because you see how much hurt you put me through....... and it makes me think that all I have ever been in a messenger to you. A lesson. My heart didn't matter in this situation. My heart never seems to matter in any situation though, does it???

"You meant more to me than anyone I ever loved at all..."

True. So true. I fucking hate that it is so true. 

Of Monsters and Men - Organs

"I am sorry this is always how it goes"

"I never changed a single colour that I breathe."

"I am tired of letting it all in."

"I should not care but I don't know how."

Everything reminds me of how it all went wrong. It all does. I can't do anything or see anything anymore without being reminded. Without hurting. I can't.

"I don't want to stay in the dark."

But how do I get out of the dark?

How???

Jake Bugg - Simple Pleasures

The chorus of this song gets me every single time.....

Wow. 

"How in hell can I be safe from this sudden fear of change? This sudden fear is strange...."

I've never feared change before. But I do now. It is strange. I don't feel safe. I don't feel good.... not at all.

"And maybe it's all that you've done wrong so just bite your silver tongue that you lied with... lied to yourself."

Maybe this is all happening because of my past and the things I have done that don't make me seem like the best person... I have fucked up. I have made mistakes. I have hurt others.. Maybe it's karma, karma sinking its teeth in ten times deeper....

The melody of this song in particular strikes such a sensitive chord in me. This melody is something special...

Red Jumpsuit Apparatus - Face Down 

An angry one.... when I'm feeling anger and frustration this is my go to song.

"Do you feel like a man when you push her around, do you feel better now she falls to the ground?"

Do I need to explain this one? 

"You cry alone and he swears he loves you."

Does this one need an explanation either? No... not really. The lyrics to this song speak for themselves.

"As your lies crumble down, a new life she has found."

I am not there yet. The lies are crumbling all around me, more and more every single day... I'm struggling to find the new life though. The better life. I'm still searching. 

"If you wade around forever you will surely drown..." 

I'm getting exhausted. I am going to drown soon.

"ONE DAY SHE WILL TELL YOU THAT SHE HAS HAD ENOUGH!!!!"

I will. I will. I will. 

Evanescence - My Immortal

"These wounds won't seem to heal, the pain is just too real. There's just so much that time cannot erase."

Wow..... just that one sentence sums up everything I feel right now. Everything I have always felt... from when I was a kid and my dad would get violent after a bottle of whiskey. From when I was twelve (?) and David destroyed my life in a way I will never be able to repair it... from when people were so not accepting of me at school and at church and when I couldn't make friends. When I was alone. When boyfriends cheated and lied and hit and hurt. When I fiddled with recreational drugs and fucked my life up for years entering into a dark world it took years more to come out from.. from everything. That sentence in My Immortal means the world to me. It is the truth of my life.

Good Charlotte - Emotionless 

For once (haha) these lyrics relate to my father not my partner. My father, the only other man that managed to break me like no one else ever could, not even my partner.. the only man I love so deeply and look up to so much and consider my hero even after our horrible past as father and daughter. It took me a long time to forgive him for the violence and rage... but I did. It will always haunt me.... it will always be there.... but my dad means the world to me and this song will forever break my heart as once upon a time when that violence was still around, I'd listen to this song and I was sure it was how we would end up.

"You broke my mothers heart, you broke your children for life..."

Cold, honest truth. My family has been through so much heartache and pain. My mother and brother could forgive him so much more easily than I could - I always wondered how. I am a hard person... when you hurt me, i build a wall and it takes YEARS to break it down again. Years. I learned my lesson long ago to not forgive easily because if you do, bad shit will keep happening. Be hard. Be strong. Be alone and no one can hurt you. 

"The scars run deep inside this tattooed body..."

And now I have a tattoo on my foot just for you, dad. Because I did forgive you, eventually. I have countless other tattoos too and they are all scars, really. They are all stories from problems i have overcome.... hardships i have faced.. they are reminders of how strong i can be.

"Sometimes, I'll forgive and this time I'll admit you that I miss you...."

This is so true. Even when my father or partner have done the worst to me... there is a soft part of me hidden beneath the blackness coating my heart that does miss them... that does want to forgive. 

Simple Plan - Untitled

"And I can't stand the pain.. and i can't make it go away. No I can't stand the pain."

The pain really is too much sometimes.

 "How did this happen to me? I made my mistakes, got no where to run. The night goes on as I'm fading away. I'm sick of this life, I just wanna scream."

The other night I found myself out on the streets past midnight with a suitcase packed and no where to go. No money to go anywhere with. After a year of a life in a foreign country I have nothing to show for it. Not one thing. 

I am fading away. I stepped onto a scale today and I have lost almost 5kgs.... that is a lot for someone as small as I am already. I'm scared. I do want to scream. I am sick of this life, I am frustrated.

WHY is it so hard to find happiness?????

Simple Plan - Welcome to my Life

EVERY word to this song describes how I feel. Every single verse. I cannot pinpoint one particular thing, it's everything rolled into one. Rolled into a song. It was written for me, I swear it. 

Do you ever feel like breaking down?

Do you ever feel out of place?

Like somehow you just don't belong

And no one understands you

Do you ever want to run away?

Do you lock yourself in your room?

With the radio on turned up so loud

That no one hears you screaming

No you don't know what its like

When nothing feels alright

You don't know what its like to be like me

To be hurt, to feel lost

To be left out in the dark

To be kicked when you're down

To feel like you've been pushed around

To be on the edge of breaking down

And no one there to save you

No you don't know what its like

Welcome to my life

Do you want to be somebody else?

Are you sick of feeling so left out?

Are you desperate to find something more

Before your life is over

Avril Lavigne - My Happy Ending

"You've got your dumb friends, I know what they say, they tell you I'm difficult.. but so are they. But they don't know me. Do they even know you? All the things you hide from me, all the shit that you do???"

Boom, Simon. Boom. On point with the lyrics here. 

I bite my tongue for so many months... feeling and almost knowing there was something wrong.... something bad. You were lying. You were cheating. You were disrespecting the fuck out of me... but whenever I asked you told me i was seeing things. You made me question my own sanity when I was right all along. 

So now these lyrics are  what I relate to. They are how I express myself and how I get by day by day. 

Listening to these lyrics makes me feel like others have been in a dark place like me right now. It makes me feel like maybe one day I will get past it. 

I will. I will. I will.