Don't Date a Girl Who Travels

I got an email this afternoon containing an article - the person who sent it said he swears it was written about me. When he said that I was thinking, 'yeah right!' but after reading it through - wow.

Reading it made me so proud of the person that I am - of the person that I have grown into - but it also left a massive gaping hole that is now resonating inside of me.
This is me through and through - not one character trait from this article is swaying away from who I am as a person.

This is me.
This is Jade. 

DON'T DATE A GIRL WHO TRAVELS

She’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell.

Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it.

Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. She wont party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.

Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.

Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.

Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing.

Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.

She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She is too independent and wont care whether you travel with her or not. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you.

So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go.

Check out the link to the article by clicking below:

https://medium.com/better-humans/802c49b9141c

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To be a girl who travels should not be a testament that you are undateable... instead, as good old Carrie Bradshaw says: "Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free until they find some just as wild to run with them."

If you are a globe-trotter, a travel junkie, a jet-setter.. if you have been bitten by the travel bug and can't keep still - then embrace it. Come hell or high water do it because you'll never be satisfied if you don't. It will be soul-destroying if you brush traveling off when you know that is what you are craving. It isn't a craving... it is a need. We are a certain type of person. We aren't your average business woman or content with working 9-5pm and snuggling into a cozy routine. We like challenges, we are delighted by the unknown and the uncertainty of where tomorrow may take us. We are good people - people that deserve to love and be loved just like anyone else... we just need someone that understands us and respects us for who we are. Someone who is willing to accept us completely - and vice versa. Obviously as in any relationship you need to compromise and adapt if you truly want it to work. So yes, although the change might not happen over night - be patient with each other. Relationships are fragile and tender things. 

What will be, will be.